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February is a month with many wonderful reasons for reflection.  We're officially into the new year, we have a month's worth of results to look back on, we have two presidents' birthdays, the NASCAR season starts, and of course, Valentine's Day.


Doing my communications-centric and personal performance-centric seminars within a week of one another and Valentine’s Day inspired me to write about a theme common to each.  What can we do from a language and personal tools perspective to positively impact our relationships? 


We relate to one another (and ourselves) primarily through language (interpersonal and internal).  Our internal voices are a choir of perspectives, that we (and our partners) rarely clarify or distinguish.  The unconscious interplay is a system of reflections and cascading feedback loops.  This is the number one issue creating conflict in couples. 



It Starts In Your Head

What we may not be aware of, is how we talk to ourselves, and how that directly impacts how we talk with one another.  If I drive myself to excellence, and get really mad at myself when I make a mistake, is there any question as to whether or not I do that to others?  Perhaps to someone I really care about?  Holding ourselves to impossible standards has some nasty side-effects when we’re not staying conscious and aware.


Try some of the pattern interruption from last month’s article.  Catch yourself when you are about to rip into yourself, and re-frame your language as if you were talking to a small child.  Feel the difference inside you.  Let yourself have that compassion; it’s contagious.



That Choir Again

I’ve mentioned how we embody several voices and perspectives, some of which are in direct opposition, and some of which are merely out of sync with one another.  Our life experience and upbringing influence the relative strength or volume of any of these voices. 


We’re rarely aware of them as separate voices, whose points of view may need to be balanced and integrated within our cranial choir.


Furthermore, your choir combined with another person’s choir create many combinations of potential reflections, oppositions, and asynchronous perspectives.



Bad Mirror!  Bad, Bad Mirror!

Have you ever heard the expression, “exactly what attracts you to someone, will end up driving you crazy?”  When we have a perspective living within us that we haven’t entirely come to understand or integrate, we are both attracted and repelled by it as it is reflected in others. 


Again, this is usually under our radar, so we’re mostly just aware of a “feeling” that we get.  When these voices and perspectives aren’t identified and recognized for who they are, there is a nebulous nature to our internal story.  The vagueness contributes to our unease, when we don’t know why we feel this way, or what’s really bothering us.


Conversely, when we do know where these voices or perspectives are coming from, we can un-hook ourselves from merely reacting to them.  We can see that there’s a part of our self that we’re afraid is flaky, and it looks just like that part of our mate who is fun and spontaneous.


We hear the critical voice in our head that we can’t stand, when a friend embodies a rigidly uncompromising point of view.  We hear our own anxiety when someone expresses worry.  We cringe over someone else’s competitiveness, when maybe it just hit too close to home.



Making this a great Valentine’s Day

So what can you do right now to give your relationships a quantum boost?  How can you meet another person in their experience with such depth and clarity that they feel more “heard” than ever before?


Un-hooking yourself from reacting to reflections is actually pretty simple, but of course, not always easy.


The first thing you need to do is know what your own voices and perspectives are, so you can recognize when you are seeing reflections of them.


This is the “tea” in your tea cup.  Your partner has their cup full of their own “tea” as well.  When you approach an interaction, you can empty your tea cup first, thus allowing room for their tea to fill it.  If you aren’t familiar with the Zen story about the “Empty Cup,” you can get a quick refresher here.


If any of this is the slightest bit confusing, and you're going to be in San Francisco over the next two weeks, all will be revealed in the February seminars.  My 2/8 seminar will pursue the language aspects, and the 2/13 seminar will pursue the embodied characteristic aspects of meeting another person in their experience, without tracking the mud of our own histories across their psyches.




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"If you are interested in success, whether it is in running a large organization, a small business, or leading a satisfying life, you will find a right blend of rules, wisdom and wit in a digestible fashion that will serve to accomplish your objectives. The notion that kindness can be blended with ambition and made to work and serve the "bottom line" is enlightening, uplifting and satisfying."

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