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The Space Between
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After having some deep and interesting conversations recently around why I take such a  different approach to some of what’s going on in our mind, it came to me that it really comes back to physics. In the simplest, most straightforward terms, the majority of action isn’t trapped in entities, but is happening between those entities. This flows outward from a subatomic level to relationships and how we perceive.

Let’s start with the subatomic. Years ago, Deepak Chopra went on talk shows saying how because atoms are mostly empty space, the only reason we can’t put our fingers through a table top is our belief that it’s solid. This was a popular new-age pseudoscience assertion at the time. In fact it was proven wrong a hundred years ago, and I’m guessing a lot of physicists wrote some angry letters, as this idea seems to have mostly disappeared.

That “empty space” is actually filled with incredibly powerful forces and waves. Once upon a time we thought that electrons were like balls orbiting their nuclei in fixed orbits, but that was proven wrong. When bound in atoms in an undisturbed state, electrons act like waves. These waves are three-dimensional probability density waves that spread out to fill the atom’s “space.” Because these electrons spread out into fuzzy density waves, there’s no definite “edge” to an atom. Even a single electron spreads out to fill all the space.

Similarly if we go into outer space, large objects (beyond the atomic) with sufficient mass, warp space-time which makes them affect each other. We wouldn’t experience tides on Earth unless we rotated through the moon’s gravity. Jupiter is over 520 million miles away, and affects all the inner planets. Stars actually hold their shape due to a kind of equilibrium between the mass crushing inward and the electron degeneracy pressure preventing total crushing collapse (nuclear fusion.)



The space between all these different entities is really what defines their behavior, and that’s the point we’re making. There’s you, there’s me, and then there’s the interaction that takes place between us. That’s where the action is; inter-action. We can be the entities we are, and yet that space between us can show up in a million different ways.

This is one of the reasons I focus on communication so much. Communication (verbal and otherwise) can determine how that interaction unfolds. As I’ve mentioned many times, the tone of voice you use can even supersede the words you use, shifting the nature of that communication. There are so many moving parts.

Now, going inside our own selves, the same thing is happening, although we may not realize it. We don’t just have one voice or perspective within. You know that you see everything one way when you’re totally stressed, and another way when everything is going well. They’re both you. You can even be stressed about one thing while totally okay about something else at the same time. That has an effect. That interaction is you. This is where the most powerful work we can do lives. Bringing all our voices from chaos to clarity.

Each of our internal voices or perspectives has its own properties, resources, challenges, and even language. They’re like planets, cohabiting the solar system of our mind. Yes, each is unique, but the interaction between them, once again, is where the action is.

To say “I am this one planet with this one moon” is to ignore the rest of that solar system that you are, and all of the effects of all the interactions. The more we look at all the “planets” and how they affect one another, the more accurate our picture becomes.

According to some ancient Sufi philosophies, each of us has at least five of these inner selves, and they have aspects in harmony and aspects in conflict. This stew of perspectives creates a lot of interaction (even 5 voices give us roughly 120 different combinations.) This is why each of us is so unique, and yet we have overlaps with others allowing us to relate to one another.



Most of the time, (unless we’ve done some work on this) these are happening somewhat unconsciously, and we just assume that’s who we are. This concept of internal interactions driving our outer interactions led me deeply down a rabbit hole of study for several decades, and finally developing the Integram^©, for which this newsletter and podcast are named.

This is a model and a system for getting all that cranial chaos to work and communicate in harmony. It unlocks vast amounts of resources we may not have known we had, and gives us tools and understanding for our outer relationships as well as the one we have with ourselves.

If you’d like to check out more on turning your cranial chaos into a choir, you can check out the September 2016 article or podcast.

You have incredible potential within yourself to have a virtual team inside who can help you out of jams, help you calm anxieties, and give you strength you never knew you had. When one part of you gets triggered, another part likely doesn’t and can help you stay grounded. You can be your own best friend, helper, and guide. It’s all about unlocking your internal cluster of selves. Pretty cool!


Want to learn more about how to become the best you possible? How your communication can hold you back or catapult you forward? Come visit the web site, or better yet, contact me and see how we can design a program to fit your needs and desired outcomes.

     - Ian J. Blei

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